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I’ve had an amazingly busy week since we last talked. I had a great time in the Hamptons last weekend where I hosted my friends from the Oprah show. I was so glad I was able to show them a nice time. I hope they enjoyed it. I was also able to play a little tennis with Luann and the girls, which is always fun. Allyson returned from an amazing trip to South Africa. I was so glad to have her home safe and sound. From there I went to Vegas with Bobby, Allyson and Lisa where we attended a licensing trade show. It was very informative and fun at the same time! The only down side to the trip was the leaving of Allyson’s laptop on the plane. I’m appealing to anyone in the Las Vegas area who may work or know somebody who works at the airport to please keep an eye out. I know it’s probably long gone, but it doesn’t hurt to keep trying.
While I was in Vegas I flew to Los Angeles to appear on The Talk. It was an amazing experience and I want to personally thank Sharon Osbourne, Julie Chen, Sara Gilbert, Holly Robinson Peete, and Lea Remini. They were all a pleasure to meet.
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I can’t tell you how exciting it was to see Skweez Couture on the episode! That day my partner was in town and we were showcasing Skweez for the first time. I thought it would be a great idea to have the girls do a focus group because as I said in the episode, “Skweez is made for women by a woman.” Who would have better input? Skweez was in its early stages when we filmed that scene. I can’t wait until you see how far it’s come since then. If you thought it looked great, now it looks fabulous. Look for it this fall, more details coming soon. Please visit SkweezCouture.com.
I was surprised that Alex brought up Sonja’s financial issues in the Skweez Couture showroom. When I walked in the discussion was well underway. I was worried that it wasn’t coming out clearly so I was trying to help Sonja explain it. I know it may not have seemed that way. I think it was presented to make me look like a busy body, which has always been a running theme for me. I only care what Sonja thinks and she knows I was coming from a good place and only offered to help her anytime she needed it. When we were in Morocco we heard about the bankruptcy but I never said a word. When we came home I called Sonja and with much love, offered her my support and advice as we have always had that kind of relationship. My sister, an attorney, offered to give Sonja as much time as she needed to explain everything to her at no charge since she was being raped financially by teams of lawyers, from her divorce to her lawsuit and now bankruptcy. I asked her how she wanted to handle it on the show and that I would follow her lead.
I love how Ramona continues to be insulted when she isn’t invited to something but in her real life excludes people all the time with no explanation. She was upset that Cindy didn’t invite her to Canyon Ranch and this time to my focus group. Alex is delusional regarding what Ramona does for a living. Since I met Ramona, she has claimed to everyone who will listen that she has been and continues to be the breadwinner of her family. Prior to Housewives she was the “closeout queen.” She would buy distressed inventory from manufacturers and resell them to discounters and closeout stores as she showed in an earlier season. Alex is under the impression that Ramona was some kind of designer. Ramona can sell and certainly negotiate money. None of that has anything to do with why she wasn’t invited. I lost a Kodak deal worth seven figures because of what Ramona said on the show. They told me such and in no uncertain words. As the old saying goes “fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.”
Ramona measures her success by how much money she has, and my philosophy couldn’t be more different. When Lord & Taylor and Macy’s said yes to buying Skweez Couture, it was one of the best feelings you can imagine. I am giving birth to a brand that will change peoples feelings about themselves. My mission statement is “Beauty begins with a great foundation.” What you wear under your clothes will set your mood. I was so excited to show the line to Kelly, Luann and Cindy as I know they care about me and support me as I do them. I invited Alex to offer an olive branch but how could she be surprised I didn’t invite Ramona? My partner knew our history and insisted she not come near anything for fear she would bad mouth it with no basis. Ramona is just too unpredictable. Maybe I should have told her in advance but she would have either bullied me into inviting her or been pissed I didn’t want to, so I didn’t say anything. OK, I’m a wimp! Besides, it was Ramona who said in season one, “you can’t invite everyone to everything.”
Speaking of Alex, I must say I was absolutely shocked at how two-faced she was to me in this episode. At that point in time I thought we had buried the hatchet and were in a good place. She was supportive to me in Morocco regarding my talk with Ramona. What changed it? Was she realizing she wasn’t getting in enough scenes? It seems to me that she spent the whole episode talking behind people’s backs and putting herself in other people’s business. This was extremely disappointing as it seems I was the only one that was sincere in the talk we had earlier in the season.
When you didn’t see any dinner but only coffee at Alex and Luann’s meeting you knew it was going to be brief. I noticed there is a reoccurring theme with Alex. Much like when I had the talk with her, she seemed to be reiterating that Luann didn’t listen to her. Alex seems to have a problem with thinking that she is not listened to. I think the reason for this is because Alex isn’t coming to people with her own issues. She’s fighting other people’s battles instead. If people have a problem with someone sometimes it’s best just to stay out of it and let people settle their own differences. In my opinion Alex is suffering from an identity issue on the show and is trying to find one by becoming a messenger. I think Luann made it very clear what happens to the messenger. Alex needs to realize that’s it’s not season 3 anymore. The ladies are standing up for themselves and not letting the backstabbing and mean words go by anymore. I’ve been called out on things plenty of times and I’ve handled it. Can she?
Parts of the episode, I still maintain were like soft porn. I consider myself an aficionado on romance and could write a book with suggestions on how to seduce your man, but some things are just better left to your imagination. I thought Luann and Jacque’s reunion was the most romantic of the three scenes because it felt truly authentic. Nothing feels the same as a new love. I thought Ramona’s and Alex’s sexy moves were overly staged and fake. OK I admit it, I am a bit of a prude when it comes to showing too much on TV. Also, I always think to myself “what would Allyson say”? I can only imagine that some of the children might be scared to go to school tomorrow because they might get teased. We all know it doesn’t take much to give a bully ammunition. I was actually so disturbed by the soft porn nature of it that I warned my fans ahead of time in case they watched the show with under age children. Yes, we got the memo that you love each other to death…can we move on now?
I’d like to wish all of the Dad’s and special men a very Happy Father’s Day this Sunday. If you would like to win one of Bobby’s ties and an autograph picture of the two of us, please enter my Father’s Day Contest. The deadline for entries is Sunday night.