45 Life Lessons from a 90 Year old Woman

This is something we should all read at least once a week!!!!! Make sure you read to the end!!!!!!

Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio .

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I’ve ever written.

My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first pay check.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come…

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”


13 Responses to “45 Life Lessons from a 90 Year old Woman”

  1. Maggie said:

    I love 32. 33,34 & 37; great post, thx for sharing.

  2. tammy larson said:

    i love them all!! thanks for sharing them.. <3

  3. Susan K Stacy,PhD said:

    Jill, thank you so much for publishing these powerful words of wisdom. They remind me of many of the talks that I had with my grandmother before she passed at the age of 97. She died the year before my son was born,but her last wish for my husband & I was to have a child.


    Thanks for sharing this Jill. Very inspiring. <3

  5. penny said:

    We should all listen to our elders and have respect for the things they say and the gifts they give us. These 45 life lessons are a gift and I will read them every week.Thank you.

  6. Mairi Black, scotland said:

    Thank you for posting this, lots of wise words. Two, particularly hit the nail on the head for me.

  7. Judith Susskind said:

    What would we do without Jill Zarin? Thank you for posting it. It really hits home!

  8. Merciful Ntanzi said:

    Jill, true each and every one of them,I have been in a situation where I thought it will never ever end but it did and now I am a changed person,which really proves that sometimes we go through a very dark and challenging time in order to reach the light at the end of the tunnel (31 on your list).When you talk about miracles, they really are out there its a matter of going out and grabbing them. Thanks for being such an inspiration!!!!

  9. Helen said:

    Am I totally missing the share buttons on this blog? Facebook, Twitter? Love Jill’s blogs and this is one I NEED to share – I’ll just link, but it totally needs a share button (maybe I’m just being blind?)

    Jill love you! Keep ’em coming!!

  10. Jeanette said:

    Thank you for posting these wonderful lessons. I really needed to read this tonight. Very smart lady. God bless you both.

  11. Jeanette said:

    Thank you for this wonderfull posting. I really needed to read this tonight. Sometimes life can get you down. God Bless you both.

  12. Jeanie said:

    Thank you for posting this wonderful message. I really needed to read this tonight. Smart lady this 90 year old. God bless you both.

  13. Kim Maree Patapan said:

    Thank you for this post. Wise words- sometimes we need to be reminded of these things. I hope you and your family have a fabulous Christmas full of fun and laughter 🙂