Jill Zarin Episode 9 Extended Blog
Posted: June 4th, 2011 admin57 Comments »
I hope everyone had a great holiday weekend. I certainly did! Bobby’s entire family came out to stay with us in the Hamptons and it was cooking and eating all weekend long. Luann and I went to the Miracle House Benefit at the Bridgehampton Beach and Tennis Club with my good friend Lance Bass. We had the most amazing time and we even got to play some tennis without the cameras there! My adorable nieces were there and I recorded some of the cutest videos. I have been tweeting during the episodes so please follow me on Twitter if you don’t already. If you do follow me, thank you! I love reading all of your messages. Without all of you, I wouldn’t want to do the show. Though we give up certain things like privacy, we gain so much from each and every one of you and for that I am the most grateful. When I am sad, you make me laugh, when I am scared, you give me courage.
The one thing I miss about filming is our organized play dates. It was great getting together with Cindy, Kelly and Luann last week. We all share true friendships, on and off camera.
In tonight’s episode you finally got to see the camel scene that you have been seeing in the previews. I didn’t think too much about the camel ride until Sonja wouldn’t go. Now I know why. Clearly they are not trained animals and even if they were there is always a risk. I was just happy Luann was strong enough to stay on the camel and not fall off! Luann is a lot braver than I am! Now onto Rameana.
Building up the courage to even talk to Ramona took a lot out of me. I have really tried to be a better listener and hoped to finally hear what I ever did to Ramona to make her act the way she does towards me. When she told me that she was holding on to a resentment about a sarcastic comment I made to someone at her renewal, “who could be married to Ramona”? or something like that, honestly I was surprised. If I got mad at every insulting thing Ramona or anyone else has said about me, I wouldn’t have any friends. Ramona often says “I know I put my foot in my mouth sometimes” but yet she NEVER apologizes. I could bring up lots of petty things she has said about me and to me, but in life you need to let the small stuff go. I felt like we were in 3rd grade. “You said this about me and you said that.” Honestly, Ramona needs to grow up and get some thicker skin. She can dish it out but can’t take it. Ramona needs to decide on one thing. Does she want a friendship with me or not?
All I wanted from Ramona was an acknowledgement that she hurt me deeply and was sorry. That if she could redo that day on the island, she would have tried to help me make peace. I walked into the house that day holding Bobby’s hand, with a smile on my face. What did they want me to do? Walk in screaming “I’m sorry! I’m sorry!” I would love to see her act out exactly how she wanted me to walk into the house according to her rules. Ramona changes the rules to suit her needs. She decides what is acceptable for one person but does not use the same rules for another. She is BEYOND the definition of a hypocrite. The difference is now I won’t accept it and never will.
How can Ramona say I am not about feelings? I am all about feelings, in fact sometimes I sometimes feel to much and get hurt.
I’d like to address a few of the things Ramona has said about me recently. I am sad to say, Ramona is truly mean and likes to put people down rather than build people up. (Look at the way she treated the young ladies she interviewed earlier this season) She is also a LIAR. She thinks if she says something people will automatically think it is true and sometimes they do. Honestly, I usually don’t care about what she is talking about, nor do most of you, but recently she has questioned my honesty and integrity. That is where I draw the line and must respond. One thing people know about me is that I tell the truth. Ramona is receiving a lot of negative attention due to her own actions and instead of listening and learning from watching herself behave so badly, she is striking back every chance she can. Not only at me, but towards Luann, Cindy and Kelly as well. The difference between us? I do root for the underdog, and Ramona? She likes to kick a dog when it’s down. It’s that simple. I used to think Ramona and I were just being brutally honest with each other but deep down, we respected each other. I never crossed the line by discussing things I knew about her and her family.
I realize now that Ramona has been using me to build herself up, but it is backfiring. Drinking and promoting alcohol in such an unhealthy way is a terrible image to present as a mother of a 16 year old. Ramona said she only drinks 1-2 glasses at dinner? Should I go back through the four years of tape and call out every time she drank without food? She is only lying to herself.
Most recently, Ramona accused me of lying about the sale of my house in the Hamptons, saying that I still pretended to own it. A few of my wonderful fans were also irked by these comments and sent me the following links and video that clearly show that I have never hid the fact that I sold my house, in fact I was proud of our sale. I am showing these to let Ramona know, just because you say it, it doesn’t make it true and I will always answer the call when my integrity is questioned. I now have to think about whether there is anything left of our friendship to recover.
Links
jillzarin.com March 16, 2010
Newsday.com
Youtube.com clip from season 3
I will be on my sister Lisa Wexler’s radio show Fridays between 4-6pm. Follow me on Twitter for exact time. You can call in at 203-845-3044 or listen from your computer at lisawexler.com. If you miss it, you can download it later. Check out the guests she has on. VERY impressive! I am so proud of my sister!
Skweez Couture is coming along great and I posted some of the new packaging ideas for your opinions. We are almost done! I love asking your opinions since I designed this for all of you. So many men have asked me for help that we are considering that for the future. Don’t forget, I read all of my comments here at jillzarin.com so let me hear them.
All my Love,
Jill
XO
June 4th, 2011 at 8:52 am
Jill, I personally think its great that you are not going to put up with Ramona! She increasingly this season has been saying cruel things about you, Kelly and Lu Ann. It doesn’t look pretty and seems very immature. You are very articulate in your description which I think is sooo accurate.
Anyway, I absolutely adore you from afar of what you share and its so nice to see a beautiful woman have a wonderful husband.
Stay beautiful Jill!
Hugs,
Anne in Houston
June 4th, 2011 at 9:06 am
i was stunned by how childish romona was acting.she would not acknowledge anything you were trying to say to her.it was like she was carrying on a totally different conversation.i use to see you as a villian.i admit it. but i see the changes in you, now your my favorite. keep strong jill.loving you in tulsa,oklahoma.
June 4th, 2011 at 9:12 am
Jill,
What I see on the show is somewhat different than what others see, I believe that all of you attack each other. I don’t see what Ramona does is any different than what the rest of you do. Everybody has good and bad qualities about themselves and as adults we need to except and keep our mouths shut about some things. I do really like you and don’t think that I am saying you are totally wrong, because there is blame for everyone. I guess what I am trying to say is that Ramona and you are a lot alike and maybe that is why you two have such a hard time communicating. Anyway that is my two cents on the situation!
June 4th, 2011 at 9:21 am
Hi Jill! Love the RHONY and love you all, I think you are a demanding group of women, but hell yeah, you guys rock!
And ps. I hope you make up with Bethenny one day 
Just don’t kill eachother, ok?!
June 4th, 2011 at 9:32 am
Love reading your blog. As far as Ramona goes, it is sad that she has turned into such a mean person. You did your best to try to talk with her. She has a serious alcohol problem now and that is so sad. She makes such a fool of herself always wanting her particular wine. We love the program and you are one of my favorite people. Have a great weekend.
June 4th, 2011 at 9:50 am
I think Ramona is drinking way way to much and I think it makes her even more rude and has that nose a little to high like she’s smelling poo.She needs to watch herself maybe she will realize it instead of denying it.
June 4th, 2011 at 11:03 am
Jill first off i love love love you! have since the first episode of season one! your own your flaws and mistakes just like MOST should but dont! I truly felt so bad for you when I watched the renion show of season 3! So please please just keep your head high and stay postive because you are a great person!! I hate to see your long relationship with Ramona come to an end but it was ment to be or it wouldnt have happened!! Keep your head high because they would love to see it fall! Love Love Love ya!!
Jerry
June 4th, 2011 at 11:05 am
your head high and stay postive because you are a great person!! I hate to see your long relationship with Ramona come to an end but it was ment to be or it wouldnt have happened!! Keep your head high because they would love to see it fall! Love Love Love ya!!
Jerry
June 4th, 2011 at 11:47 am
jill, honestly during the first couple episodes i felt like you guys were possibly a little hard on ramona but after seeing these last few episodes, i’ve changed my mind! i think it’s sad to see her acting so out of control and acting like she’s lost her mind. you have been one of my favorite housewives since the beginning of the show. while i know last season was rough, you definitely seem to have been able to learn from it and let it help make you a better person. i’m glad to say i’m team jill!
June 4th, 2011 at 11:59 am
Jill, get over Ramona, she’s a real whack job!!!!! I’m beginning to think the show is paying her to act like that because nobody could be that mean and hateful!!!!! You’ve done everything you could, so be done with it!
June 4th, 2011 at 12:05 pm
I also think she may be bipolar and not on her meds……
June 4th, 2011 at 12:15 pm
This is the first time I have ever posted on any celebrities website but I felt the need to give you a “thumbs up”, “pat on the back”, “you go girl”, etc. after I watched the 2nd episode in Morocco. Your attempt to reconcile with Ramona was a waste of time. Clearly she didn’t want to talk WITH you-she never let you finish a sentence without interruption. Her behavior was childish, yours was much better than mine would have been in a similar situation. She kept saying you weren’t “hearing her”, but quite truthfully, all she was hearing was herself. Kudos to you. My advice-dump her and move on.She isn’t worth your time or efforts. P.S. you are really looking good!
June 4th, 2011 at 12:15 pm
Well unfortunately .I think your friendship with Ramona has run its course.And its time to say goodbye. Besides its very hard to manage a friendship with an alcoholic.Jill you have been a great girl this season. A big turnaround. I still miss you& Bethanny together (. Good luck with your line. And seriously if you see Luann .Please tell her i thought she was a lovely hostess in MOROCCO. all the best Tricia Porter
June 4th, 2011 at 12:27 pm
Hi Jill — I’m HUGE fan of yours. Just ignore Ramona. I’d just want to slap her. You have a life and family who adores you. Don’t play into her immature BULL! Wish I could meet you someday
June 4th, 2011 at 12:40 pm
Hi Jill. I think you are wonderful. Forget Ramona she is a catty, jealous, unattractive woman. She needs to stop talking and start listening.
June 4th, 2011 at 1:26 pm
Team Jill!!!!!
June 4th, 2011 at 1:42 pm
Hi Jill, I am a fan of the show and of both you and Bethenny. I think you handled your confrontation with Ramona very well and your comments are well said. Ramona clearly has a drinking problem and is unable to have an honest and open dialogue with you. You have done everything you can, it’s time to move on and let go of her. Hopefully one day the things you have said to her will sink in and she will get the help she so clearly needs. All the best to you and your family. xo-Lydia
June 4th, 2011 at 1:51 pm
Hi Jill: I have to be honest, at first I didn’t like you because of your relationship with Bethany, but now I do like you. You seem different this season. Nicer. More yourself. Anyway get over demona. Her eyes kind of bulge like there is a demon in there. I must say she is rather funny and pathetic all at the same time. I feel sorry for her. All any of us want is to be loved and accepted. Why can’t we all just get along? Because no one would watch t.v. It would be way to boring. I love Luanne, Countess with an attitude Daling or should I say Darling. Kel Kel is a trip herself. And Sony I mean Sonya definitely has added some kick to herself this season. My beautiful sissy and I would love to do lunch one day. Let me know.
June 4th, 2011 at 2:23 pm
No one is perfect, and you don’t profess to be. You are all a little scary, because in the world which is real to most of us, almost all of the behaviour I see on the show is just so over the top. That said, most people gotta love you. Even in the background shots of you, I see someone who is real; maybe not all the time (hello camera), but most of the time.
Watching you in the background on the camel, in that purple outfit, playing and making faces, you seemed like a friend we’d all like to have. By the by, that purple on you is simply amazing. You should wrap yourself up in it as often as you can.
Anyway, I never get retweets, acknowledgments or the like, but I can at least say that I said hello to Jill and left a couple of comments. be well, be the true Jill all the time, and let the chips fall where they may. That’s why we humans give and accept apologies.
take care,
Laurie
June 4th, 2011 at 2:23 pm
I love how your doing all the recipes now on your blog. That is too cool. Like I’ve said, all the cooking networks, they have shows dedicated to all sorts of different styles of cuisine, but none of them have a Kosher Chef Show. I think that’s a great idea. Maybe teach people outside of the Jewish community, that Kosher food is very good and exciting and can appeal to anyone not just the Jewish Community. Food builds many bridges to different groups bringing people together. It’s like music.
Anyway, I committed a sin, I fell asleep right at the camel ride. I can’t believe I fell asleep, but I’ve been working hard and there’s just not enough of Jill Zarin on RHONY to keep it exciting for me.
Anyway, I don’t think Luann is after Mario. She may think he’s hansom and all that, but she is too classy to want Ramona’s sloppy seconds. It would be a insult to her and make her appear pathetic to go after Ramona’s man. I don’t believe Luann would do that if for nothing else but out of pride.
If Mario is cheating on her, I would not be surprised though. I would not be surprised if it was someone close to her. The person it would be is someone who follows her around like a groupie. Someone who tells her everything she wants to hear. That’s what people don’t understand, someone who does that, all they do is tell you what you want to hear and strokes your ego, is not your friend. That’s a butt kisser who wants something. A friend tells you the things you NEED to hear regardless if it’s the ugly truth or not. Sometimes being that person, makes you not so popular with your friend, but a friend has the guts to tell you the ugly truth about certain things, not pretty lies.
Your telling the ugly truth from a place of caring and worry and you feel things need to be dealt with not glossed over and look the other way, that’s what a pretty lie does. A wound gets worse when it’s treated with neglect.
Obviously, something is wrong. Ramona is drinking way too much. She is trying to escape some reality in her life. You noticed during the photo shoot she mentioned how she goes through assists, then all of a sudden her assistant there says, Ramona you look like Pam Anderson. Now do you think the assistant really thinks that or just stroked Ramona’s ego in the effort to secure her job? Really Ramona does look good for her age, but she’s not Pam Anderson. That’s such bs. That’s the type of person that would go after Ramona’s husband. See what I mean, that assistant is not her friend. She just wanted to secure her job.
Jill I would say, to Ramona, I am your friend, not your groupie, not your friend, and not someone who is going to bs you. I am not going to be that escape drug. I will be your friend, which I think she needs, just can’t admit. She needs to go on that show “Intervention.” I’ll be honest with you, anyone who sticks with a person through something like that is a FRIEND because I watch that show sometimes, and I would loose my patience with some of those addicts if it were me. Ya know if they want to drink themselves to death, go for it. Tell Ramona your not going to be her enabler. That’s what she wants. That’s not a friend.
June 4th, 2011 at 2:44 pm
Jill – It’s sad that you have to put forth so much energy just to try and straighten things out with Ramona. Is she worth it – in my opinion – no. She spends all her energy trying to make you look bad and she’s not even in the same league as you. Her not letting you get a word in just irked me to say the least. Who does she think she is? Really! I think she has underlying problems that have nothing to do with you and she takes it out on you. That’s bullying!! and she doesn’t wear her anger well. You have too much class to even be her friend at this point. She does not deserve your friendship and I wouldn’t waste another minute on her because she is sooo not worth it. Go Team Jill!! I will always love you – no matter what!!
June 4th, 2011 at 2:58 pm
Love you Jill!! I feel like you are really honest and to me you have the biggest heart. You come across to me as an emotional person with a big personality…I think you are very sincere. i am not a Ramona fan but I was wondering if you could address one thing…I did think Ramona had good intentions last year when she got you and Bethanny together. I still don’t know why LuAnn had to step in and stop it. You were upset but that seemed normal for the heaviness of the situation. I have not hear LuAnn comment on why she abrubtly had to get you out of there…I still feel like that could have been a turning point. I know you can’t rewrite history and I am not bringing this up in any way to come across as “on Ramona’s side”. I just really wanted your take on it. I have loved you from the start and will support you in anything you do!!
Mary Ann
June 4th, 2011 at 3:27 pm
Jill, you are hands down the best housewife! The way you handled Ramona, well actually who can handle Ramona. She constantly talked over you, accused you of not listening but she was talking so much how could either of you hear what the other was saying. You should be very proud about trying to talk to her to begin with and you handled it the best you could considering who you were dealing with. I know it’s hard and easy for me to say, but just drop her out of your life. You don’t need all that negativity. Luv you and your family, Marcy
June 4th, 2011 at 4:10 pm
Your blog is very honest and I am sorry to hear that Ramona has smeared you. Friends don’t do that. You have a lot to offer the world and that you can only do by continuing to be who you are. I love how devoted you are and certainly how you respond to your fans, myself included on twitter. I was so giddy. You are a great shining star and people will always try to tarnish it, don’t let them.
June 4th, 2011 at 5:24 pm
Thank you for your frank blogs – sadly, so many RHWNYC fans take one side or the other and forget that there are always more than one side to a story. For the life of me, I cannot understand why people continue to not see Ramona for who she truly is. I am 7 months sober and tho I do not like to point fingers as, let me say that I see myself 8 months ago in Ramona – denial, mean-sprited, drink in hand making sure the next one was not far away, separating myself from old friends for the newer, not knowing me well friends who I would then be able to feed my bs until they figured me out too. I have enjoyed Romana to a point in seasons past because, like Bethany and yourself, she spoke her mind. Now, she is out of control (maybe trying to BE Bethany for the show?) with her mouth, her attitude, her backstabbing, her denial. The only thing I see that makes sense is the increase in alcohol consumption. It boggles my mind that as smart as Alex appears to be she cannot see the forrest for the trees. From comments Bethany has made on Andy’s show, she has seen it and it sounds like she has possibly had enough of Ramona.
As for you, Jill – you just keep being you. I get you. No one is perfect, and you don’t claim to be because you are a smart woman and know we are all a work in progress. I know you will come out stonger for the hell you paid last year and the hell you are going thru with Ramona’s vindictivness. Keep on keepin on!!
June 4th, 2011 at 6:52 pm
Ramona can’t remember what she says or what happens around her. She’s always drinking. I feel bad for her Liver. The kind of behavior she shows her young daughter isn’t motherly. Don’t worry about her she will let herself destruct. She’s always talking about she’s right bc her fans say she is. And everyone agrees with her. That’s so childish. Who named all those people the gods of the world. Focus on those who love and know you and you will live a nice and happy life. And forget those who do wrong to you. Don’t give them the time of day or the attention. That’s exactly what she’s looking for the attention. And everyone is giving it to her. What she did to those girls at the interview was so degrading. And they sat there and took it. She said she was building their character. Sounds like she is condoning bad behavior. But I don’t know many New Yorkers who would sit there and take that crap. Then again a personal assistant job isn’t a job many people want. It’s about time she had a reality check on her reality show.
June 4th, 2011 at 7:00 pm
Ramona is using you like Bethenny to gain attention for herself and her wine/jewelry and probably a spin off show for herself. I would be just as hurt as you were when she asked you to leave! That was terrible as was the behavior of the other women that were there! A lot of people are wondering about Ramona and her drinking so much and not just w/meals. You’re doing great, Jill… snake on your head… YIKES!!! lol
June 4th, 2011 at 9:02 pm
I would love Skeez Couture for men!!!!
June 5th, 2011 at 2:14 am
Jill I really admire you and your by far my favorite housewive, i watched this weeks episode and saw why you were so upset with ramona because she ruined your chance to make up with bethany and i just have to say that i dont think she handled that the best way she could have but she is the one who tryed to get you and bethany to make up before at her house and you werent ready to do it then, and by the time you were ready bethany was over trying.. im just going by what i have seen on the show i know i dont know the whole story.. before bethany left the show you two were my favorties and i hated to see what happened to the two of you. but i wouldnt blame ramona for you and bethany not making up, its really not her fault.. but i do know you have pently of other reasons not to like or ever be friends with ramona agian.. best luck to you Jill, i love you and will be a lifetime fan..
June 5th, 2011 at 4:48 am
Jill, you are my absolute favorite housewife out of all the shows. It was heartbreaking to watch you go through what you had to go through last season with Bethany, it reminded me of a friendship I lost and I just felt for you. No matter how much time passes, true friendships should be mendable and I give your props because no one was easy on you.
I tried to respond to Ramona’s Blog because it made me so mad but for some reason Bravo chose not to post anything in negative light I guess. She claims you don’t take responsibility for anything, and if she was watching the same show she would realize how off she is. All you did during the last reunion was say you were sorry and say you were wrong. To me I really hope you realize that it shouldn’t be Ramona deciding if she wants to have a friendship with you, it should be your call. The best word to describe her is toxic. SHe is a toxic friend, and to be honest, it seems like her goal is to make you look bad. (which I don’t think you do) She is to dangerous to trust with any friendship.
And the truth of the matter is everyone talks to some degree about other people behind their backs, good and bad. And your on a reality show, how is an interview considered “talking behind someones back?” You all sit down in the chair and are asked questions I’m assuming. You signed up for it, knowing everyone else is being asked questions too? She needs help.
And I wonder if she brought up the fact the Luann was trying to sleep with Mario to Luann, or was the little convo in the hallway not considered behind Luann’s back? Because that was a disgusting assumption, and really questioning to Luann’s character.
My motto: I am amazing but I am not perfect, and I hope my friends forgive me in those moments of imperfection, but if I want that I need to forgive them in the moments when they are not perfect either.
Ramona is not forgiving, and I would just let her go. You seem to have found some quality in the other ladies, stick with them. I hope you find peace at the end of the season, and know that we are rooting for you.
Elaine
Boston
June 5th, 2011 at 6:28 am
Finally, I can tell you how I feel and get it posted (the Bravo site is ridiculous)!! I’ve always liked you from the first season I started watching. Last season was particularly painful for me to watch and the reponses to your blogs on Bravo made my blood boil so often that I was afraid I was going to stroke out.
First of all, your “fight” with Bethenny: Personally, I never saw that as being your fault to begin with. I tried to put myself in your position and thought, “Here I am, inviting my dear friend to stay with my family in the Hamptons for the summer. I don’t ask her to contribute financially because she’s going through a bit of a tough time; I feed her, I take her to parties, I treat her as a member of my family. We leave the Hamptons and she finds a new life; doesn’t even bother to visit my husband when he’s sick in the hospital (sorry, sending flowers doesn’t cut it for me, either); doesn’t call me or return any of my calls, some of them pleading, because my husband is so ill. Only when she starts to struggle again; only when people are telling her to make up with me; only when she’s the one looking bad (of course, for many, Bethenny can do no wrong, even with her pottie mouth), does she deign to call me and try to make up.” Did I get that right? Well, sorry, life doesn’t work that way . . . her manners were appalling and her definition of “friendship” is truly misguided. Jill, she used you and your family and when something “better” came along, she dropped you like a hot potato. I felt no sympathy for Bethenny during your feud; I felt really bad for you, particularly when the Bethenny-adorers were raining down insults on you. I hated when Alex became the self-appointed Bethenny messenger and confronted you during public functions (the woman seriously needs to grab some class and a brain). It was horrible to watch, and it was just as horrible to see your other supposed friend Bemoana, treat you the way she did. I was so glad to see last season come to an end because it hurt me too much to watch you being hurt so much.
Onto this season: I’ve seen you make a concerted effort to change your ways (not that, in my humble opinion, they needed changing). Talking to Alex, apologizing to her (ugh), making a pact with her, took a lot of courage. Especially because I never thought you were in the wrong with her and the things she did were atrocious. Trying to work things out with Ramona: forget it. I realize you’ve been “friends” for a long time, but as Luanne has said, Ramona knows how to push your buttons and she never hesitates to do that with that smug smirk on her face. She IS a LIAR and I truly believe she’s an alcoholic (at the very least, well on her way to being one). Ramona is all about the drama and trying to be better than everyone else. All she’s succeeded doing, in my eyes, is prove what a biotch she truly is (the remark about your niece’s port wine stain was truly an indication of how classless she is). But, Karma and the world works in mysterious ways, and although I wouldn’t wish ill-will on anyone, Ramona’s “time” will come. Please, stay away from her.
What I am loving this season is your friendship with Luanne and particularly the one you have with Kelly. Truly, I’ve always liked Kelly and last season was particularly difficult for her. The fact that “the blondes” continue to make disparaging remarks about her mental stability, really bothers me. I think you can be a good, stabilizing influence on Kelly (along with Luanne) and I really believe you have her best interests at heart. She seems a little more fragile than the others, however, these past few shows, I’ve seen her take the bull by the horns and not put up with any of that bull in a mature way. Are you friends with her outside the show? I hope so.
Finally, I just want to say that I think you’re great. You’re also a smart, funny, grown woman who can take the punches and grow from them. I’d like to say stay away from Ramona, however, you need to do what you feel is right and I trust that you will. You’ll always have a fan in me.
Bless you, Bobby and your entire family.
June 5th, 2011 at 3:42 pm
Hi Jill,
I just finished washing episode 409. Wow, is all I can say. I’ve recently gone through a similar situation with 3 of my girlfriends, my very best girlfriends over the past 16 years; To be honest, the last 6 haven’t been the greatest; I’ve taken a lot of crap from all of them; and after watching your journey on RHONY with Ramona, it gave me the strength that I had been looking for to rise about the pettiness and the crap and to demand respect; I was surprised to see that your talk with Ramona went very similar to the talk I had with my girlfriends… I’m 29 years old, and I would have thought a woman of Ramona’s age and life experience would have handled the situation better than my girlfriends! I guess that when people are wrong, and they are told they are wrong and they can’t bring themselves to come to it, they just continually flip it back on the person who is confronting them; Ugh! Thank you so much for being my inspiration! PS: Just bought Secrets of a Jewish Mother, can’t wait to read it! All my best!~Christina
June 5th, 2011 at 6:22 pm
Jill I am on your side all the way. If I had a child that acted the way Ramona does, I would have her in therapy, Who does she think she is? She doesn’t deserve all the respect or attention she demands, and she lies so she can get it. In my neighbrhood we call her a “Big mouth Yente”
June 6th, 2011 at 1:18 am
When I hear “Ra-mean-a” say at the beginning of each episode”it’s not my problem if people don’t like the truth”,I think of a quote from the English poet William Blake,”A truth that’s told with bad intent beats all the lies you can invent”
June 6th, 2011 at 5:35 am
Jill,
I really like you but I believe that your friend LuAnn causes all the problems for you. She made you leave Bethanny, right when you gals could have made up, and now she is coming between you and Ramona. Do you really think a true friend would stop you from trying to be friends with the other girls? So what if you are fighting with the other girls, that is not LuAnn’s business, yet she has to stop you from making up with them. You really need to sit back and watch what LuAnn does and has done. She is not a true friend and she just wants something that you have. If you watch and listen closely you can see the LuAnn is two-faced to you alot. Please Jill, watch your back with her. Wishing you all the best in life. ♥♥
June 6th, 2011 at 5:45 am
Hi Jill,
I have never bothered to write to a celebrity but i am now and i hope you read it. I know that you are hurt over the end of you friendship with Bethenny and i think you have done a great job of saying that you did thing wrong but she did to it take two people to make something work and to people to have it fall apart. I also just wanted to say you have always been my favorite housewife you are the reason my mom watches the show and we both say how real loving and beautiful and person you are. How we can just see you have and amazing heart. We also think Bobby is amazing such a strong silent but loving and wise type you are very lucky!! We love Ally she is beautiful smart, poised and well mannered someone you can tell was raised well. And i think your mom is amazing as well and you sister seems great you are so blesses. I know you received a lot of bad press last year but i don’t believe most of it was true. I can see you have a good heart and you wouldn’t have such and amazing husband and daughter if you were all the things they said about you. You couldn’t raise someone like Allie and be the person they said you were or keep a husband like Bobby i don’t think he would be with you if you were as evil as they tried to make you plus i think you mom and sister would have told you to shape up! Anyway I love you so does my mom!! and ill always be TEAM JILL!!!!
June 6th, 2011 at 1:06 pm
Hi Jill.. I just wanted a take a moment to tell you that you look gorgeous at Camp Bravo… You are my favorite housewife and I watch them all. I find that your terribly misunderstood. I wish you continued success and keep fighting the fight!! Pam
June 6th, 2011 at 4:02 pm
i love you, flaws and all. don’t give ramona any attention. she is doing so well on her own, and i love watching her build her dream world. I have noticed this year that hubby and daughter have kept their distance. sad. bethenny has created her insular world and is a sad shadow of her old self. if she were to move to california she would discover what a small fish she is in a big ocean. money can buy most of what she wants, but not the wisdom to cherish life.
i read your life every day and love you writing it.
June 6th, 2011 at 4:39 pm
Yes, you are my favorite housewife. Pertaining to Ramona, you tried. That’s it, it’s over. Say hello and keep going… she is not your friend and never will be. Ramona is for Ramona. Don’t invest in a friendship that gives nothing in return.
I do feel that Ramona is drinking way too much on the show… or is it being edited this way? Sonja… well I like her but she is lost as well. They are both very self centered women who’s world revolves around them. Again, be sociable, hello how are you? and that’s it… keep is simple and go your own way. Your better off and this way you go forward with peace in your heart.
Blessings to you and yours.
June 7th, 2011 at 11:24 am
Jill… I think you are just the best. You are honest when you say “You own it.” Ramona has been plotting to tear you down since last season when she made the comment to Bethany about you helping the underdog (I can’t remember her exact words) and Bethany was offended. She has worked to end your friendship with Bethany and I think succeeded on the Island. I agree I think you two could have worked it out, however she is a decietful bitch. She wants to be you plain and simple.. Pecking order is always you at the top…. because you are soo respected. She could never achieve what you have. WHat I see in you and what I think everyone else see’s… you may have the money and you may know how to flaunt it, but you know where you come from and you own that! Others just put on airs, you are you .. sophisticated, yet I bet you could kick some ass is neccesaary. Be safe Jill.. Live You … Love your show!!
June 7th, 2011 at 3:30 pm
Jill-
I have watched you since the first season and really do like you. I think the filler work you have had done to your face looks great and you look quite refreshed – and your hair looks so much better red (rather than that darker color I saw you in in Andy Cohen’s show).
Please take my comments to you below in the spirit in which they are intended, which is only with the best intentions to help you
You have a tendency to be extremely materialistic (this is NOT a good trait) and overly judgemental toward other people in general, but especially other peoples’ events where you will comment that this or that is nor right. I plan events myself and know how it can be when you attend a function that is not yours to control and you see things that are tacky or not of your taste or simply just not teh best they could be. One instance I recollect was an event you went to where you walked in and immediately said (or so the editing would have us beleive) that you needed something to eat, you said that the finger foods were not good, or enough, or whatever. You really need to make a concerted effort to keep your opinions to yourself and not complain, even though you are probably right! 
It is simply the classy, gracious thing to do. A bigger person would just be courtous, except that others may not be able or financially capable of providing the quality that you enjoy and have come to expect. There is my two cents – I just think you are a wonderful person and need to soften some of your comments – although this is a reality show and you are probably all told to play up your strong personalities for good TV. 
Good luck with Ramona – she really is a whack-job, obviously she has some real issues still haunting her from her childhood – I would feel sorry for her if she were not so brash. The two of you trying to have a conversation is quite commical – you are both talking and no one is listening….
Best of luck to you and I hope that someday you and Bethany can rekindle your friendship. I think she grew up and didn’t need you as a “mother” anymore – hopefully some day you can both bury the hatchet and realize that life is too short and even if you are not best buddies hanging out all the time anymore, that you can be cordial and not akward when you see each other at events, etc., which I assume you must occasionally do.
June 7th, 2011 at 8:55 pm
Love the blog, gonna keep reading. I clearly remember you stating you sold you house, that is why you stayed at the LuAnne’s house that summer? I don’t like Ramona, she out there, everyone see’ it, does she have a page full of fan’s? Her taste in wine is so ghetto anyway… LOVE YOU JILL!
June 7th, 2011 at 11:38 pm
Jill, Love watching you on RHONY…you have always been my favorite…even my husbands….we are ranchers from South Dakota and catch you guys every Thursday…Just wanted to tell you that I think you are the most real housewife with a loving husband and kids….loved the way you were when your step daughter spoke at your charity event..touching….and as for dealing with Ramona…don’t let her negativity get to you ….keep rising above…luv and hugs
June 8th, 2011 at 3:46 am
Jill,
I just want to send you my love and prayers. I know that living a public life cannot be easy. Rest assured, not many people put much stock into what Ramona says. I truly believe that the woman has bi-polar disorder, and I do not say that lightly. As someone who lives with it- I realize the signs from ones I have gone through myself. I was glad to see you take the high road and try to talk to her. I was so proud of you for LISTENING to her FIRST. Unfortunately, she did not give you the same respect. And you deserved it. You have done all that you need to do to try to keep the friendship in tact. You can walk away with your head held high. I will pary for Ramona as I know she needs it. Lord knows that woman needs a “Come to Jesus” moment. I have watched every single episode since the very beginning of the show and have enjoyed watching you evolve as a person. I truly adore your dedication to family and what an AMAZING mother you are. I didn’t grow up with one and would have loved to have had one like you. I hope to “take a chapter out of your book” as they say as I am now the mother of 5 children in diapers. My oldest twins are 5 next week, my middle child will be 4 and my youngest twins will be 3. My baby girl is a miracle baby. She was blessed with Down syndrome and has taught me so much. You are an amazing woman, Jill. Don’t let ANYONE tear you down. I’m not one to post on pages, but I just had to say all of this. Sorry if I sound corny. I send you lots of love and well wishes from here in Michigan!
Always,
Sara
June 8th, 2011 at 6:46 am
I think Romona’s idea of dialog is, “let me talk about what pisses me off and then when it’s your turn, I’ll talk over you about the anger you hold and it’s not productive with this anger you hold.” What a cop out. It’s an easy way of not having to hear about HER hand in the conflict. I know her type.
Talkover…it works every time. It’s exhausting and you finally give in because there is no way you’re concerns are going to be heard and you’re mentally spent. Good move, Ramona.
To those who have pointed out the flaws in Jill. Yes, she has flaws and in the past, MANY shallow flaws. But give her credit for attempting to fix the major ones that she showed in the past. She lost a precious friend and I think it was a major catalyst in her need for change. Who says you can’t change? I wish she and Bethenny could renew their relationship. I have always wished for a friendship like they had. I love both women but I think Bethenny would benefit greatly in her “wholeness of self” to forgive and forge on with her friendship with Jill. Bethenny shined with Jill, she had a SISTER and sometimes SISTERS fight but the love remains. I wish Bethenny could let herself feel that.
June 8th, 2011 at 1:21 pm
Jill – I think you are absolutely correct about Ramona all the way around. In my opinion she is changing mainly because of the alcohol. I wonder what she is trying to cover up with all the wine? I think you have honestly grown as a person and I believe that the falling out with Bethany really hurt you. Love this season so far! Keep smiling!
June 8th, 2011 at 9:35 pm
Jill, I have love watching you since season 1 of RHONY! You have always been my favorite house wife.
I am very shocked with Ramona’s behavior this season and could barely stand to watch the scene between you two on this last episode. She wouldn’t hardly let you get in a word! At least that is how it seemed to me. I think you handled yourself really well. I don’t know how you even stayed in that room with her that long. She was really annoying. Anyway, keep smiling that beautiful smile and be yourself! That is what we all love about you!
June 8th, 2011 at 11:03 pm
I searched the internet for the answer but I could not find it but I’m very curious. Are you and Bethanny friends ?
June 8th, 2011 at 11:19 pm
I can’t believe you would be friends with Luane or Kelly. There must be a reason, but I don’t think you know what it is.
Luanne comes off so desperate. And she is desperate to keep you away from any other friends but Kelly or Sonja. Kelly is stark raving crazy and how you can’t see that, tells it all. Sonja is just plain brainless. A “lifestyle expert”? Come on! What a joke. What kind of life style is that?!!! OOPS, must be like yours and Luanne’s. Self indulgent and self serving. Not to mention homely.
June 9th, 2011 at 10:15 am
Hi Jill, Out of all the housewives group, I thing NY tries to give back to those in need much more than the others. Also,I’m with you about Ramona. From what I have seen on the show, perhaps subconciously, she stirs up serious trouble anywhere she goes, unless it is her event. And she never owns it, she just makes excuses. Yes you have done things to her that have been a little harsh, but I’ve never felt it was your intention to upset her. They just happened. One example was at the fashion show when she had the “look”, you said some overly critical things and then left early. You apologized I believe. Compare that to the Kodak event, where she insulted the host company and then disrupted the speeches. That was intentional. She seems to have a need to get revenge when she feels she has been wronged, no matter how small the slight is. I don’t know why she doesn’t see how unkind her behaviour is. You are right, it is denial.
June 10th, 2011 at 4:02 pm
Jill. great show lots of drama, but you and Romana have to call it quits, she uses you and what I see out of her is she is a one friend type and right now her only friend is Sonja, they are both about the same thing, themselves and getting on a buzz of what ever means. I have no idea what they are worth and only know more than I, but they are no better then I am, if nothing else I have more respect as a person then they will ever have. You don’t need either one of them, I don’t know how you all can have these confrontions one minute to the point someone would physcially feel my rage,(might do some of them some good) and hug and be best friend is the course of an hour, things are said and done that I’d be done with them for life. I guess thats where the class comes in at,I guess I don’t have any. But my opinion is you Kelly and Luann and now Cindy don’t need those girls in your lives. And as far as Bethanney goes give her a call as many as it takes to resume your friendship. Don’t give up on her. Sit back and watch because they Romona and Sonja are going ot be needing you all soon cuz they are about to find out they are not as wonderful as they think they are. Alex go see a shrink!
June 10th, 2011 at 4:41 pm
Jill, You deserve credit that you did what you could to clear the air with Ramona. She doesn’t have a self-aware, self-reflective bone in her body. She can’t see how mean and vindictive she is. Ramona doesn’t think the rules apply to her. She’s upset about a comment you made regarding Mario… last year??? Meanwhile she says the most cruel, catty and dismissive things about everyone and shrugs it off if they “can’t handle it” when she hurts their feelings. God help Mario. I hope he has a mistress to provide some relief from that crazy-eyed Pinot Grigio guzzler. Sonia is another piece of work. That woman is arrogant, narcissistic and delusional. She has no accomplishments other than a marriage to a rich old man. She brags about her tacky parties and her moth-bitten townhome (soon to be liquidated). Who throws a costume “ball” in a 10 x 12 cellar with nothing but cheese and crackers. To add insult to injury, she exposes her bruised, cellulite-dimpled rear *oopsie* accidently on purpose. She thinks she’s a cougar hottie but she’s just a desperate woman who can’t face the fact that she’s aging and bankrupt. Her “pecking order” is coming back to bite her on her sagging butt! (She could use your Skweeze panties ASAP!) Finally, I like Luann and Kelly! Luann is fresh, fun and gorgeous. Kelly is real and I can tell she just doesn’t want to get into it with the viciousness of Ramona and Sonia. Who can blame her? Cindy is great- I know she comes off as overly sensitive but when Sonia pulled her diva “pecking order” on her, she called her out on it and I love Cindy for that. Alex?… meh. She’s boring and tries to create drama that only comes off as affected and staged. She’s not interesting at all.
June 10th, 2011 at 5:25 pm
I have loved watching you this season! I appreciate that you admit your flaws, god knows everyone has some! I do think that all of you talk at each other and don’t listen, everyone wants an apology but doesn’t think they need to give one. I have found it is easier to simply apologize for hurting someone, whether you agree with them or not. If I love a friend then I care more about their feelings than being right, it doesn’t seem like you and Ramona are able to be friends without hurting one another, so I would let it go. She clearly has a lot more going on than you need to deal with. No one drinks that much if they are in a happy and stable place, I really just feel sorry for her. Honestly, who cares whether she insults your integrity…she is just trying to keep the whole dramatic battle going so she doesn’t have to deal with her own problems. Anyone who would listen to her on matters of integrity probably isn’t worth defending yourself to. I would just rise above it, vent to your family and friends and don’t put anymore negative energy out there by responding to her allegations or saying your own negative things. Engaging in that is an ugly spiral and is the worst part of what us women have to offer the world. You clearly are doing the best you can to be genuine and to be the best person you can. You don’t need to hang around with such a snobby drunk anyway! :0)
June 11th, 2011 at 2:31 pm
You are on a show. Accept them all as acquaintances and save your love and energy for your real friends off of the show.
June 12th, 2011 at 5:07 pm
Of all the housewives, you by FAR seem to be the most normal. Everybody has their faults and you are the only one who seems to really “own” it. Ramona needs to be on medication, and if she already is, she needs to increase the dosage! She seems impossible to deal with, and is a very difficult person. Why would you want to have her as a friend? People change, friendships change, don’t hang onto something that’s proving to be so toxic to you. It seems the minuses are far outweighing the plusses of trying to be friends with her. Love watching the show!
June 13th, 2011 at 5:33 pm
Jill, Lesley said it right perhaps she is bipolar. The fortune teller from morocco, I will not be surprise if Mario has another woman. Ramona is overwhelming to be with.
June 29th, 2011 at 7:41 pm
Jill,
Ramona is really not as bad as you are trying to portrait her on the show. A “classy” woman of your stature, should not be calling Ramona an alcoholic…How do you think it makes her daughter feel? Imagine if someone was to say that about you; how would Ali feel? I seriously don’t believe people who seem to think that Ramona could be jealous of you : she got it all going on: her own business at her own merits. Now Bethenny : she does not mention your name once in her new show. It does not seem like she tried to extend the olive branch after the last time we’ve seen you all together at the RHNY reunion…She is done! She tried to make up and you shut her down. Now own it. It was low of you to say that it was Ramona’s fault, as she was the one who tried to make you guys reconcile at her house and thanks to your friend Luann, it did not happen. Did you ever ask Luann : “why did you come and interrupt my discussion with Bethenny?” And most importantly: why did you follow her lead? Sometimes, when you hold the grudge for too long, you lose…In friendship, there are no winners : it’s either you forgive and forget to maintain the friendship or you keep it moving. Accept that it is over with Bethenny and life will probably be better.