Welcome back! The day after the storm..
Posted: June 11th, 2010 jill z14 Comments »
So sorry the site crashed! So many people came on it overloaded the server. WOW! I need to upgrade this asap. I hope we can before Tuesday night’s episode. Sooo…what a night. Thank you all for the comments. Keep them coming.
Do I need to rehash all the details now? That would mean I have to re watch it which I don’t want to do. I saw it twice. That was enough. I can share with you my feelings.
I have finally received only the nicest emails and facebook comments all night long. ( well not all, but enough to make me feel better!)
Alex.. what can I say. Again..we were never and are not “friends”. I am very clear in the friendship chapter of my book ( Secrets of a Jewish Mother) what it takes to be a friend etc. We wrote it when all this was going on last fall. It saved my life. My mother was trying to teach me ( again!) the lessons of friendship. Relationships are the hardest thing we ALL have to work through ( spouses, children, co-workers, friends) and it takes work. I think that is what people were so invested in this season. Many of you reading this have told me you had an experience similar to this) . People were curious to see what would happen and also compare our relationships to their own. The premise of REALITY TV is “Better you than me!” or ” I wish I were …”
There are still things I wish I could have said and things that were cut out. For example…Alex had NO PROBLEM asking Bobby and I to give her $2000 worth of fabric for FREE for her fashion show. Why did Bravo cut that out?? Because it would make me look good? Because it would show that I was trying to be her friend and the audience would see through her plan? Alex’s plan was to make noise to stay on the show. Jen Gilbert was cast to be a potential replacement. I didn’t do it. Bravo did. In fact I spoke to Silex about it..about how they should do something. Well, I guess this was what they figured out to stay on the show. I only wish them well but I don’t see us ever being friends again. They went below the belt and did things off the show that are unforgivable including accusing fans of being me on Amazon reviews. It is disgusting. J Samples is NOT ME. Never was and never will be. I hope people who read the book write reviews on AMAZON or wherever they purchased it and write a fair review and not be intimidated by people. People used Amazon as a blog for the show. I feel terrible that my sister and mother worked so hard on this book with me and are being hurt by all this.
Tuesday night is the next installment in the reunion “series”. Crazy right? Well…it is going to get very emotional again.
I feel pretty good about last night. Not everything I said made it in ..but I think the points are in there. Bobby and Allyson were in and out of the set all day and at one point Allyson came up from behind me after I was crying to hug me. I think Ally has learned a lot about friendship from this experience.
Clearly my radar was OFF. I really thought B and I were friends. I think I was the last to know that we never were. A real friend, not matter what, would have let it go and made up. B never wanted to make up. It was all for a TV SHOW and that’s what I was saying last night. I wanted to talk off camera at Ramona’s house. She wouldn’t. It made me crazy in that moment so no, I was not ready. She said on Andy Cohen’s show that I never asked her because she didn’t know that it was filmed and they were ready to show the footage last night. When she found out, she admitted it. Then changed the subject. I could go on and on, tit for tat, but it is over. Maybe one day we will be able to talk again when the camera’s are all gone. Who knows.
What I do know is that I loved being on the show. I made lifetime relationships ( I hope!) and yes, I would do it over again for that reason. However, I can’t say what I want to do right now. I have mixed feelings. I think the universe will present something or someone who will help us make the decision when the time comes.
This summer I am working on my bedding line for ZARIN and it will be out this October in a national retailer. We will continue to travel for book signings around the country. Please sign up for my newsletter if you want to stay in touch. My sister’s radio show www.lisawexler.com is on daily 4-6PM and you can hear it online. I come on often and would love for you to call in!
Have a great weekend!!
Love, jill
June 14th, 2010 at 6:22 pm
I agree with everything you said Cindy! Bravo!!!!
June 14th, 2010 at 7:17 pm
Jill your the best you and my favorite housewife
June 14th, 2010 at 7:33 pm
I would like to just add one thing to this. Bethenny did try and come to Jill first to apologize and work things out and Jill wasn’t ready and now Bethenny isn’t ready. I love you Jill you have always been my fave house wife since Day 1. I loved u2 and your friendship. But recently I had a best friend of 15 years just cut me out of their life over a stupid argument. It is sad to lose a good friend. I can say in Jill’s support Bravo did nothing but make Jill look bad and it made me so so so sad.
June 14th, 2010 at 8:35 pm
Jill I love you and the way those 3 housewives attacked you all season and on the reunion shows is disgusting!!! You held your own and are a class act. Bethenney and Ramona have been rude and snarky all last season and they sit there and judge you for doing less then them – not cool. I hope Alex more then anyone does NOT return to the show, she is a social climber and is trying to ride Bethenneys coat tails and adds nothing to the show. Her new tough girl act is ridiculous, she comes across as a rude nasty person. I like that you are friends with LuAnne and Kelly, I like them both and they seem to be true friends to you! All the best to you and your family.
June 14th, 2010 at 10:10 pm
jill,
i think everyone is being a little hard on u,dont get me wrong,how u treated bethenny was not pretty,but i blame luann for that,it seemed to me that everytime,u and bethenny were confronting one another,luann was right there,instigating the issue..she claims to not talk about people behind their back,but she was anti bethenny the whole way,she did all but throw bethenny out of YOUR home,the day bethenny came wearing her heart on her sleeve,after her dad basically threw her out of his hospital room..not to mention when u had bethenny on speakerphone,and she was being negative the whole time,i would like to think when i confide in a FRIEND,about another friend,they would try to give the the positives about both sides and not hesitate to tell me when and if i was wrong,luann didnt do that,no matter what the scenerio was,u were always right,and as we are finding out,was not the case..distance yourself from negative people like that,i like u alot,and i hope u and bethenny patch up ur friendship real soon,i know u mean well!! and enough with the jill bashing..lets talk about luanns out of key song,,how much editing did we have to do for that one..oops not nice
June 15th, 2010 at 6:02 pm
Hi Jill, As a loyal viewer, I had no idea and still cannot figure out how you became this evil nut-job. Are they kidding? Alex is just doing anything and everything to be “accepted”. Her rants towards you were her insecurities coming out. Bethenny is the one who let fame go to her head – just look at her change between the seasons!
You have always been a great, NURTURING person and want the best for everyone you love. Don’t give in to these bullies. You are apologizing for nothing. They should be apologizing to you! You should have let them cut Alex – she makes me sick just looking at her. There is no inner or outer beauty there
Dina Manzo said it best on RHONJ last night – don’t mistake kindness for weakness. Go and tell some of your castmates that!
Wish you, Bobby, and Ally the best
June 15th, 2010 at 6:33 pm
Hello Jill,
From the beginning I have been on “Team Jill.” You are what you are. You don’t deny it. You are Jewish, a New Yorker, and you have money and status. Without blinking, that stirs up a lot of “stuff.” You admit that you own some fault in the situation that took place this year. That puts you heads above the rest of the crowd. None of them can see themselves clearly. While I’m sure we don’t see the “rest of the story” on air and there is editing to make things more stirring, some things come through loud and clear.
I agree with some of the comments about Bethany. Her success and fame have changed her, even though the show this year tried not to portray her in that light. Actually, Bethany is like a wounded animal. You never know when she is going to snap at you and bite. She may think her humor can cover everything, but she has a tongue like razor blades.
Alex and her strange husband are status seekers, and come across as very shallow. Shame on that coward for hiding behind Bethany in attacking you. She is very jealous of you. However, when you were gracious enough to be a “connector” for her, she took full advantage of that situation. I agree that she just doesn’t fit on the show. By the way, I found her children’s behavior strange. They surely need some loving discipline.
The Countess and Kelly seem more genuine than the rest of the cast. Everyone is flawed, obviously, but jealousy and spite don’t come across from them. Poor Kelly……she got caught on Poison Island for sure.
Here’s the catch. The fuel behind the fire is actually Romona. That poor child is so incredibly jealous of you! She may say she has renewed herself, but all the old stuff is just under the surface. I believe she threw fuel on the fire, behind the scenes, of your feud with Bethany because she was even jealous of your relationship with Bethany. Even Ramona’s daughter is more mature than she. From the things we see on the show, I can’t understand why you have remained friends with her. She appears to be so hypotrical. Wouldn’t trust her for a second.
You have taken almost as much blame as George Bush at this point. Are you a conservative and the others just found out??? Kidding aside, you seem to have owned your own fault and that’s all you can do. You already know it, but you seem to have a real gem in Bobby.
June 15th, 2010 at 9:44 pm
Hi Jill, just don’t know where to begin! I met you last summer in Beverly Hills with Carol C and I found you both very real. We talked about clubs in long Island from our disco days and very vaguely about the show. You did ask me what I thought about B and I said I thought she was funny in a very sarcastic way. I still feel that way, it suits HER! I also said YOU tho are the real deal and to keep those women real because THEY were becoming fake! How dare they accuse you of being affected by the show. I have to say I don’t know if I have the stomach to watch part 3, I used to love watching episodes more than once, not this season! I wish you peace Jill and even more than that I wish you patience. I think if you sit back your real problem (social climber leach Alex) will get on Bethanny’s last nerve. B is far from stupid and she will see quickly that Alex is latching on to her for her own self gain. Let go and let God! You will be fine. Sent with warmest regards from Florida.
June 15th, 2010 at 10:44 pm
Jill, I hated this season….Ramona isn’t renewed and she gossiped abpout B and allowed you to get the flack for it……..Alex what can I say, she went from being a nothing to a star??? Maybe because she wanted to keep in the spot light so B would take her along to her new show….I wish B well but I do think she has a mean spirit and just because she says she is what she is doesn’t excuse her behavior….she isn’t perfect……I couldn’t figure out WHY YOU??? Why would Bravo allow you to get kicked so hard this season and WHY would the keep it up during the Reunion shows…..you are a beautiful and wonderful woman who I would be proud to call you my friend…..friends NEVER judge one another and they NEVER turn their backs on you……we have never met but you my dear Jill are one person I would love to meet one day and someone I would never five up as a friend…..You, Bobby and Alli are a beautiful family and Ramona, Alex and B should have it so good…..Keep your head up and don’t allow those mean women ever make you cry again!!!
Blessings to you and your wonderful Husband and Daughter….and of course to your Mommy and Sister too…
Donna B
Santa Barbara, CA
June 18th, 2010 at 1:01 am
I’m not exactly sure where to begin.
Alex talks about you being such a mean girl, but all I see her doing is throwing tacky insults at you whenever she possibly can. To go as far as to say that you created a screen name just to harass her and Simon is just silly and petty. She’s developed a voice alright. One of a high school twit that hasn’t gone through puberty and is jealous of her best friend that got boobies first. I’m so tired of of hear “Well Jill did this…” It’s not productive to hold onto the past. Alex and Simon are just annoying at this point, and not worth the time or day. Alex is just a hypocrite. Plain and simple. And why on earth does she think you would acknowledge her at St. John’s? She made it clear she wanted nothing to do with her. Another way to make you look bad. She needs to get over you.
Ramona is just annoying. She needs a valium. She’s not renewed. She uses that as an excuse so she can still make stabs at people. She’s a bully. If she doesn’t like something, she makes a backhanded comment, her eyes bug out, and she freaks out. She proved that at the reunion. She can’t even sit still, like a 2nd grader that got told no she couldn’t have candy. I just hope her daughter isn’t as abrasive and mean spirited as she is.
Kelly needs to stay away from all these mean women. They aren’t nice.
I just hope you and B can work something out.
June 18th, 2010 at 1:07 am
Alex doesn’t have the balls to even speak up for herself. She needed B’s permission to speak. She would have never said it on her own otherwise.
June 18th, 2010 at 10:22 am
Jill,
I’m sad to see that you and Bethenny are no longer friends. That being said, I do think that she has forgiven you. Forgiving does not mean that things need to go back to where they were, it simply means that you have let go of the anger and hurt. I think she has but you can’t apologize and then expect or demand that she again be your friend.
I truly believe that she was your friend but somethings last a lifetime and some things last only a season. I think your season is over, maybe it will bloom again, but after watching just how mean you could be to someone you truly cared about (the lowest point being secretly having LuAnn on the phone and then being so cutting to Bethenny who was trying to arrange a meeting … I shooting her down as she tried to reach out was so much worse than the treatment you received on the island), I, too, would be scared to jump back in the friendship pool with you again. Every action has consequences and often those consequences are beyond our control.
Best to you,
Grace
June 22nd, 2010 at 12:46 am
Jill:
You let a whole lot of us down this season. You were my favorite for a long time. But even when I think Bethanny is a bit over the edge, you pop up as the evil doer of the entire group. Kelly is sick. The Countess is a joke, and I am sorry for you and your daughter, because you came off, even if what you say is true, as the most evil, vicious person I have ever dealt with. It confirms my belief, as a long time professional, that women friends are always your worst enemies. Open up to a female friend and you get screwed. You have made me lose faith in women – again – after you initially made me believe perhaps I was wrong after being stepped on in both my personal and professional lives as a high level executive in marketing for years. It all boils down to jealousy. Your actions made me decide that men are the best friends a girl can have.
June 22nd, 2010 at 1:14 pm
Bravo has systematically NOT printed comments by Jill fans that reflected negatively on team BRA throughout the entire season. And Andy Cohen seems to have joined the Jill- bashing bandwagon also. He quipped to anyone and everyone that Jill turned her “Watch What Happens Live” appearance into a plug for her book but did not call any of the others out for plugging their books, tapes, songs, etc. on the show. I’m beginning to think they (Bravo) are trying to push Jill out next season. If Jill isn’t on because because of this I, for one, will NOT watch RHONY.